If you're the woman who…
🔱 Holds it all together
🔱 Falls for the man who ghosts, shuts down, or has the emotional range of a potato
🔱 Feel like crawling out of your skin when a good man gets too close
But you.. secretly ache to melt into a man’s warm embrace who adores every layer of you.
Then I am your biggest cheerleader in your ear saying… “This can change your life.“
Let me spill the tea.
The man who is…
🙈Afraid of commitment.
🙈Avoidant.
🙈Clueless.
🙈Emotionally unavailable.
He is not the problem.
What IF the real problem is something very different and wildly empowering?
The REAL problem is this.
– your own nervous systems capacity to receive love —
Your highly intelligent nervous system being on red alert 🚨 when a high quality man comes near you.
You go into shutdown, control, numbness (boredom) & want to buy a day of ticket to the Caribbean + triple text the guy who never fully commits to you.
Why does your nervous system react this way?
Keeping you in old loops of liking the man who is chasing another girl or questioning your dealbreakers.
I need you to trust me & let this land inside you, even if you JUST met me on IG talking about how HOT right now. 🥵
Take a big nourishing breath, open your heart & let me drop the news.
That very present, loving man that has you tell yourself "abort mission" He is unearthing buried anxieties in your body and that is one of the absolute MOST uncomfortable experiences to work through… but for the brave, it offers the BIGGEST reward.
Don't look back now. Breath and say "let's do this."
That discomfort can feel so icky. It's scary.
It makes you want to crawl out of your skin or get hit by a semi bus.
But here's the kicker: Your body is a powerhouse healing machine. It will clear buried anxieties & trauma faster than you can say "commitment issues."
You just haven’t learned how to do this. Instead you’ve been chasing the trauma bonds hoping he will finally morph into “the one” leaving you at a dead end.
It's not your fault:
❌ You were raised in a culture that treats your body's intelligence like it's last season's
trend
❌ At some point, life threw you a curveball that hurt like hell
❌ Instead of feeling it, you pushed it down and slapped an "I'm fine" sticker on it
And now? The very thing that pokes that discomfort is the presence of LOVE… is the thing you WANT.
As Dr. Doug says, "The number one way to see your trauma is dating."
Trauma is the original wound. Anxiety is your body’s alarm trying to prevent it from happening again. It’s not what’s wrong with you it’s how your nervous system learned to protect you. And it shapes how you love, trust, and let yourself be seen.
